Is this your first holidays season as a Co-Parent? As much stress you think you feel, remember that there can be additional stress on children during holidays.
Here are a few tips to protect the kids this holiday season:
1. Children love Christmas. The children should be in center stage. Establish new traditions if the old one’s are no longer working. Remember separation can create anxiety and be traumatic. Building new happy memories are needed at this time.
2. Give them your time! Forget about spending a fortune on items that will go by the wayside, instead plan fun inexpensive events that allow you to hangout with your kids. (ex: go pick up pine cones and do a craft project together, go window shopping, go see Santa, rent a movie and make some popcorn).
3. Personal Time – Take time for yourself, and be extra gentle, holidays are tough because they bring up a lot of emotions.
4. Be Nice – For your children’s sake if not for your own, be nice to your ex. Be flexible with who gets to be where on holidays. Remember, the kids love both of you and it is especially harmful to put them in a tug of war situation. If you have the kids for Christmas, make sure they are able to touch base with the other parent by phone. Remember the children are connected to the “other family” as well and they should not have to hide their love for that family from you.
5. The holidays are supposed to be about comfort and joy. Let go of the bitterness because the person you really help is you!!!
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